She got my vote for Mother of the Year!

Just about the time when you begin to think, “All is lost”, a HERO emerges. Toya Graham hits the spotlight in the eye of chaos, to demonstrate her love and concern as a mother. Her parental instincts kicked into overdrive as she confronted and held her 16 yr old son accountable for his actions. Her affection and devotion to her only son, defied the contemporary voice that says, “You can’t embarrass, or physically discipline your child”, by chasing him down for at least 60 seconds and going upside his head. My question is, where were the rest of the parents at? Toya’s label as a “Hero” is evidenced based because out of all the kids that were throwing bricks, rioting and looting, Toya knew her child was in danger. She witnessed her son walking in agreement with criminals and when you commit a crime these days, you never can tell how it will play itself out. What would have happened if the police would have opened fire on those students? I can hear the parents whose children were gunned down saying, “My baby, they killed my baby”.  Toya’s actions sent a message that read, “I would rather have my son taken from me and put in Child Protective Service, due to me beating the hell out of him for looting, than to shed crocodile tears at his funeral because the police issued their twisted form of justice on him!”

To the 16yr old son of Toya Graham, I want you to know that your mama loves the hell out of you! The embarrassment you might feel because she displayed her love for you publicly; will serve you in ways you never would think are possible. Because if the truth be told, I know some parents who can’t correct their child at home; so in public, you know it’s a wrap. Today we celebrate Toya Graham as a Hero for confronting and holding her 16 yr old son accountable for his actions because it’s a rare quality. At the rate we’re going, by 2020, a mother might be a Hero for feeding her child. Something to think about; Parents we gotta do better because if we don’t love them, the police might kill them.

Where there is Smoke, There is Fire

From the time I woke this morning, all I’ve been hearing is, “Did you see what they’re doing in Baltimore?” Although I will never condone that act of destroying property as an avenue for protesting; I will say, “Where there is smoke, there is fire”. What’s next?  I know, let’s blame the mayor; as former Los Angeles detective Mark Furman said, “It’s very clear that she was trying to give all these protesters-slash-rioters a chance to blow off steam and then stop. It didn’t happen, “he said. Imagine this, people rioting, stemming from a legitimate grievance; the reactionary behavior is wrong but the grievance is still VALID! That leads me to believe that people who have been labeled as “Terrorist”, could be displaying the wrong reactionary behavior to a VALID grievance. Speaking of grievances, I wonder what is ISIS's grievance? They also could have a VALID grievance but are definitely exhibiting the wrong reactionary behavior for it. By the way, the last time that Mark Furman was on the side of justice, wasn't he preoccupied with planting evidence and committing perjury?

     America, let me say it again, “America, here’s an idea, let’s try something new”. You see, rioting is the spoiled fruit of the grievance (No regard for Black Life); why continue to address the fruit and never get to the root? America has been notorious with bringing in the troops to address the fruit of a grievance; why not bring the troops in to address the grievance (No regard for Black Life)?

If I’m being shown through experience, social media and interaction with certain law enforcement officers, that my life can be taken for something as small as making eye contact and running; would it be unimaginable to think that I don’t care about the safety of a store, church building, local smoke shop or nearest CVS Pharmacy store?  When I see that my life has value, maybe I will see value in the stores that you rebuild with insurance money.

Change isn't Cheap!

     I remember at age five standing on the porch, watching my uncle’s friend Koody rolling dice. It appeared to be a pretty exciting game because of all the yelling and cursing that took place, not to mention all the money that was on the floor. Koody would take the dice and shake them while

they were still in his hands and roll the dice on the floor of the porch. As the dice came to a stop, Koody would yell, “Come on, seven!” I believe Koody was an all right crap shooter because he kept picking up money. I asked Mr. Koody if he would show me how to play, and he told

me that I needed some money. I immediately ran into the house and grabbed a bunch of pennies that were lying around; I would have grabbed some dollars, but I couldn’t find any. I ran back out to the porch and squatted down like Mr. Koody. He told me I would need to wait until it was my turn to roll the dice. While I waited for my turn, I attempted to pick up on all the genre that was being used, but they were all talking at the same time; and besides, they were using a bunch of profanity. Well, my turn came to roll the dice, and as I was given the dice, Mr. Koody told me that I needed to put my money on the ground in order to roll the dice. So I took my handful of pennies and threw them on the ground. As I started shaking the dice in my hand, I could hear everyone else laughing. Mr. Koody grabbed my hand and told me that I needed some real money, and his next words were, “Pennies don’t spend.” The nerve of that guy, treating my pennies like they weren’t real money! As I stood up and shamefully walked away, I took a lesson away with me as well as my pennies. The lesson was that change is cheap! I wish that Mr. Koody’s statement was the case for the changes that were about to take place in my life. Purchasing airline tickets from Arizona to Indiana weren’t cheap. Taking Genevieve back home with me, while my family knew I was still married, wasn’t cheap. The feeling of disrespecting my grandmother by asking if we could stay with her wasn’t cheap. The overall objective of removing my mother from a pedestal by confronting her wasn’t cheap. I was taking a crash course in Change 101; learning that whether change is beneficial or detrimental, it’s never cheap.

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The Most Important Job on the Planet- DADDY

When my 10yr old son Malcolm gave me this birthday card, I must be honest, at first I told him “Thanks son”. The reasoning behind such as superficial response was my feelings of inadequacy as a father. You see, I failed him as far as staying married to his mother. I failed numerously at spending adequate amount of time with him. I failed at giving him a consistent godly role model. I’ve failed at times with making sure he has the things on his wish list; as well as, some of his basic needs.  I’ve failed at attending some of his football and basketball games. I’ve failed at controlling my anger and watching the language that I used around him. With such an extensive list, it can be challenging to read a letter from your son, stating that you have been influential and he appreciates your guidance in his life.

I used to believe I was a “Good Parent” until I made some critical mistakes. After making the mistakes, I fell under the impression that I was a “Bad Parent”. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not a “Bad Parent or a Good Parent”, I’m a Parent. As a parent, I want to encourage you to forgive yourself and keep at it. Sometimes our kids can learn from our humanity and serve as silent accountability partners that will teach us a thing or two.

Diane Sawyer must be Running out of Topics

I truly believe that I have intentionally avoided a certain issue due to the fear of the backlash I would receive. But last night I was fortunate enough to watch the Diane Sawyer special on Bruce Jenner and that was my indicator to write this post.

When a grown man is glamorized on a prime time network, to discuss his choice to become a woman and we applaud his announcement as if he was a war veteran, we have lost our way. I’ve grown weary of walking on eggshells due to my fear of offending the same sex gender; so this is my coming out party! Diane Sawyer must be hard-up for interviews these days or she’s just a puppet, responding to someone else pulling the strings for a much larger agenda than increasing viewer ratings. I do believe that our country is in a state of confusion. We don’t know if we would rather be the woman in high heels or the gangster in black with an AK-47. It is as if our entire country is being hijacked by individuals who won’t rest until the strong moral fibers that have brought this nation prosperity beyond recognition, has been reduced, resembling a polyester sweater from 1971, that is being sold at Goodwill for a fraction of the cost. Diane Sawyer went as far as to call Bruce Jenner a hero!

Some people have stated that they were born gay, as if there is a gay gene in their DNA. If that is a fact instead of a cop-out, in order to numb one’s conscience from conviction; how can 2 gay men reproduce that gene? They can’t and if that is not possible, why does the number of the “Alternative Lifestyle population increase? Shouldn’t that gene have died off by now? America seems unsatisfied with limitations so much so, that the wild life kingdom may be in danger of being tampered with, by humans forsaking natural affection for humans, to engage in foreplay with animals.

By the way, I’m not struggling with homophobia or insinuating that I hate homosexuals, BUT I don’t condone their choice to act on a perverted sexual desire. Does that mean I cannot love a homosexual? Absolutely not! I have a son who smokes cigarettes and marijuana; even though I don’t condone his choice to self medicate, that does not mean that I’ve decided to no longer love him.

NEWSFLASH- People can disagree without being hateful, people can choose to not subscribe to a certain lifestyle and at the same time, demonstrate love for the person involved in that lifestyle. 

30 Minutes with the Police, This can happen to you!

I’m usually very tactful and conscientious of the multi faceted audience that read my post, but today, I must say, “The police go too far!” How does a 25 yr old man, get chased, caught, cuffed and the police call in for a paddy wagon in less than 4 minutes but after that, it takes the police 30 minutes to call for paramedics? Question, did the police ignore Freddie’s injuries for 30 minutes or did the police cause his injury while in their custody? According to the pictures that show Freddie getting into the paddy wagon, there was no injury that the police overlooked, that would indicate they were depriving Freddie from emergency medical attention. So why did the police wait 30 minutes after Freddie was in the paddy wagon, to call for paramedics? Bottom line, they got carried away and beat Freddie to the point of needing emergency medical attention. I’m like, Damn these are suppose to be the people who took an oath to protect the communities they serve but instead of protecting, they’re serving and what they’re serving is death! I do believe that black folks have been very gracious and forgiving towards the injustices that we’ve encountered but there is coming a day, when ALL DEBTS will be PAID.  A society cannot continue to thrive and prosper by accumulating debt; whether it’s financial, or emotional. But hell, this is America; she can owe every country and live comfortable inside of a delusion, that no one wants to get paid. Black America has grown to understand that our expectation for justice from the police can fall by the way side; but the question arises, should we expect justice from America? The Department of Justice needs to get this one right. R.I.P. Freddie Gray

The 411 with Marvin James: We Don't Ride like That

The 411 with Marvin James: We Don't Ride like That:      When I saw this picture, I had to ask myself one question; “Why in the world would someone choose to put a cheetah on the passenge...

We Don't Ride like That

     When I saw this picture, I had to ask myself one question; “Why in the world would someone choose to put a cheetah on the passenger side of a vehicle that they’re driving?” Don’t they have the Animal Planet channel in Dubai? If you’re going to ride with a cheetah in your car; might as well put one in the bed with you. Why not wake up in the morning and have a cup of coffee with an alligator; then take a light stroll to the greenbelt with a pet rhino? Certain ethnic groups would never be seen in such a pose. You would never hear of a black male jumping a fence, to pet a lion or cuddle with an adult tiger. Black folks don’t get bit by snakes during hiking exhibitions because we’re not looking at the mountains, river falls or wilderness scenery; but we’re looking down at the very next step in front of us. 

     While it may be risky to ride next to a cheetah in Dubai, in America, blacks find it risky to ride in the back seat of a police car, because you never know how it’s going to end. As a black male, I really don’t have a desire to seek the thrills of keeping company with wild animals because there is a certain amount of suspense in leaving my home in the morning and returning at night. As a matter of fact, as a black male, I ride with different animals that are far more dangerous than cheetahs. I ride with venomous males, who talk like I talk, walk like I walk, struggle like I struggle but will utilize the similarities we share, as a entrance point, to relieve me of my few resources, just so they can eat. We don’t have to visit the zoo in order to see the wild, I can fit the description of what “White America” considers to be dangerous and be gunned down by a neighborhood watch member. I can lose my existence, falling victim to an elderly officer, who mistakes his firearm for a taser. I can be shot several times by a police, while complying with his command to show him my driver’s license. You see, in America, the way some people watch the Animal Planet, gaining insight as to how certain animals survive; as a black male, I watch America, gaining insight as to how my race survives.

The 411 with Marvin James: Where's the After Party At?

The 411 with Marvin James: Where's the After Party At?: If you are reading this right now, it could very well be your “Last Call”. There will come a day when you my friend, will find yours...

Where's the After Party At?

If you are reading this right now, it could very well be your “Last Call”. There will come a day when you my friend, will find yourself on the brink of eternity, taking your last breath in this life. As you slip in and out of consciousness, every sermon, preacher, bible verse and friend or family member, that have warned you about judgment day, will vividly scream inside of your soul; signifying that your day has finally come. The question now arises, are you ready for what’s ahead? As you recall every act of defiance, rebellion and sneer at your Creator and His word; you begin to tremble, just the thought of going forward with an impending judgment, brings such hatred towards the sins that you’ve cherished in this life. O wretched soul, where will you turn? Going back in life will not be an option, proceeding to the judgment is too horrifying and standing between the two, will not be tolerated. At that moment, it will be clear that you have been betrayed by mere mortals, who insulated your choice to live as if this life had no bearing on eternity. As the Death Angel confirms your status, preparing you for travel to that eternal destination; you will beg and plead for just a little more time. But your destination was confirmed by your daily activities that turned a blind eye to your Creator; choosing to live with a false sense of freedom, at the expense of you soul. Run towards your Maker and plead for mercy, forsaking your sins, while there is still time.    

The 411 with Marvin James: "I'm not going to settle down for just Anybody!"

The 411 with Marvin James: "I'm not going to settle down for just Anybody!": I can remember overhearing two women discussing their standards and prerequisites for a potential husband. I must say that these women ...

"I'm not going to settle down for just Anybody!"

I can remember overhearing two women discussing their standards and prerequisites for a potential husband. I must say that these women were not half stepping. The list went from having good credit, to being good with kids. They were looking for a man with good hair, gorgeous eyes, cute butt, bulging muscles, great employment and a nice ride. The list also included, that the man be sensitive, educated, funny, romantic, polite, discerning, and able to protect from any harm or danger. As if the list wasn’t long enough; one lady said, “He has to be accepted by my mama, liked by my best friend and not be addicted to porn or drugs”. “He definitely has to love the Lord, be faithful, responsible, and patient with my son”.

I agree with the women, regarding admiring a man with all those qualities, but where do you find such a man? Not in a church because those men are boring; not at work because those men are dogs. Not at a bar, those men are predators; not at school because those men don’t have steady employment yet. Not in prison; those men are felons; not at the morgue because those men are dead. Not online because those men lie about who they are; not at a car dealership because those men are not sincere.

Ladies, your search for a man with all those qualities, could be a delusional desire, for a single man to posses every good quality of the past men you have been intimate with. Or could it be that you are expecting to meet a polished, finished product but all you seem to find are “Works in progress?”

I’m not insinuating that women should lower their standards but I am suggesting that you compare yourself to that standard. And if your examination reveals that you are lacking in multiple areas of your standards, it is possible that your potential mate could be also. So your only choices are to roll up your sleeves and be part of the process to build those qualities in your mate or watch life pass you by, while you sit on the bench of life, waiting for your delusional mate, who doesn't and never will exist. REAL TALK

THE WORLD IS YOURS

If you have seen the movie Scarface, maybe you can relate to this. During a conversation between Tony Montana and his right -hand man Manny; Tony asks, "Me, I want what's coming to me."  His friend Manny asks Tony, "Oh, well what's coming to you?" and Tony answers, "The world, Chico, and everything in it."  Talk about the spirit of entrepreneurship!  Tony was really on to something with such a desire.  Where does one get that type of ambition from?  Such lofty ideas and grandiose thinking should be labeled prideful and arrogant.  Or is there more to that statement then meets the eye?

I believe what Tony Montana wanted was dominion; which is something that God commanded Man to have. Genesis 1:29 states- God said,"I am giving you all the grain bearing plants and all the fruit trees.  These trees make fruit with seeds in it.  This grain and fruit will be your food".  The word dominion means to rule; authority, the act or fact of ruling; domination.

Man was not meant to be dominated; especially by things that he is supposed to have dominion over; such as, Cocoa leaves (Cocaine), Cannabis (Marijuana), Tobacco (Cigarettes), Barley Wheat (Alcohol) and so on, which will include all the man-made items; such as, meth, bath salt and spice. How can you tell if you're being dominated by a grain bearing plant or fruit tree? Do you have to rationalize, minimize or justify your use of these plants? If so, it's a good chance that you're being dominated. But here's the Good News, not only can you be free BUT you can have Dominion!

Heavenly Father, I didn't know that you commanded me to have authority over (the item or items you struggle with), I'm sorry for not having dominion but Father I want my dominion back. Father I desire to walk in authority, but I've tried it on my own and failed over and over again. I'm tired father, so i ask you to come into my heart and free me, in Jesus name. Amen

The 411 with Marvin James: If you're Expecting Perfection; Dont Hold your Bre...

The 411 with Marvin James: If you're Expecting Perfection; Dont Hold your Bre...: Through out my experience of being a follower of Christ, I can’t help but notice the amount of insight displayed by people who don’t beli...

If you're Expecting Perfection; Dont Hold your Breath

Through out my experience of being a follower of Christ, I can’t help but notice the amount of insight displayed by people who don’t believe in Jesus or Christianity. I have relatives and friends who will tell you flat-out, that they don’t believe or walk with God. They don’t pray, go to church, watch religious channels or have a cross hanging from the rear view mirror. The strange thing about these Non-Believers is the amount of insight they have regarding how a Christian is suppose to live. They know Christians aren’t suppose to curse, get drunk, blaze weed, smoke cigarettes or shack-up and play house with someone they’re not married to. They know that Christians aren’t supposed to steal, have pride or talk negative about other people. Believe me; they let me know every time they saw me not “Acting like a Christian”. I don’t think that they understand that as a follower of Christ, I will sin but I shouldn’t become comfortable with sinning.

At first, I would get upset, feeling like I blew it. I often questioned my faith because I could not measure up to their legalistic view of a relationship with Christ. I have come to realize that some people will use your sin as a justification of choosing to not believe in God. This phrase is common, “I ain’t going to church with all those hypocrites; I’m not going to play with God like that. “ When I get my life together, I’ll go to church”. What that means in laymen terms is, even though I know that I’m living wrong and there is a God; my heart is more sincere than a person who attends church, and prays but has obvious sins. Well here’s my stance; I would rather climb and fall, scraping myself all over, while climbing to Heaven, than effortlessly, sliding comfortably to Hell! Fear God, not Man

The 411 with Marvin James: The Best $12 You've Spent!

The 411 with Marvin James: The Best $12 You've Spent!: 411 Supporters, When was the last time you spent $12.00 on yourself and the purchase lasted more than a month? A burger at Five G...

The 411 with Marvin James: The Best $12 You've Spent!

The 411 with Marvin James: The Best $12 You've Spent!: 411 Supporters, When was the last time you spent $12.00 on yourself and the purchase lasted more than a month? A burger at Five G...

The Best $12 You've Spent!

411 Supporters,

When was the last time you spent $12.00 on yourself and the purchase lasted more than a month? A burger at Five Guys is $10, a manicure is $20, haircut is $25, movie ticket $10, McDonalds $8, cigarettes $10, blunt and $10 bag $11; BUT a tool that will keep giving back is PRICELESS! You see, most people don’t see the need for help with their relationship until it’s on life support. My book, which is a blessing for married people BUT also for individuals who are single; providing a description of potential wolfs in sheep’s clothing. You see, I’ve failed at numerous relationships and at times, down right stunk as a father; but the experiences of failing have paved a route for me to write one of the most CANDID, TRANSPARENT AND STRAIGHTFORWARD BOOKS OUT THERE!

So the question arises; how much value do you place on a relationship or marriage? You’re probably saying, “This book isn’t for me because I’m not married and I’m not in a committed relationship”. Well guess what?  This book has an ending that will bless you as an individual man or woman. Bottom Line; GET YOUR COPY!!! CLICK LINK BELOW

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The 411 with Marvin James: Hows the Weather In Your Neck of the Woods?

The 411 with Marvin James: Hows the Weather In Your Neck of the Woods?: Have you ever wondered how the weatherman or meteorologist can predict the weather? What type of training or schooling does that job req...

Hows the Weather In Your Neck of the Woods?

Have you ever wondered how the weatherman or meteorologist can predict the weather? What type of training or schooling does that job require? I believe you or I can actually become a weatherman or meteorologist! Simply put, we can predict the forecast in our lives. How can you tell if you’re headed into a storm? How do you tell if there will be clear skies or an 80% chance of rain?

There were some fishermen who were on a boat with Jesus. These fishermen were not amateurs by a long shot. But while they were directing the boat, Jesus was sleeping by the stern. The stern is the back of the boat. I can hear the professional fishermen telling Jesus, “Teacher it’s been a long day, you have been preaching up a storm so you go ahead and get some rest. “We got this boat stuff; we’ve been doing this for a long time”. “Jesus we will let you know when we get to where we’re going, you just chill-lax”. Sounds like a logical request to send Jesus to the back of the boat, until the storm arrived!

Any area of our lives’ where Jesus takes a back seat, expect a storm! You can book it in your day planner. You see, Christ not only wants to be the Savior of your life But the Lord also. Lordship means that our entire life comes under the guidance and control of Christ. So instead of lobbying to legalize Sin (putting Christ in the back), maybe we could avoid some of our nation’s storms (abortion, AIDS, gang violence, police brutality, shady politicians and a horrific divorce rate), by letting God’s Law massage our stony hearts; which will allow us to make a positive choice-REPENT, and be saved from the coming judgment.

Read Mark 4:35-40

The 411 with Marvin James: Whats Really Going On?

The 411 with Marvin James: Whats Really Going On?: Mr. President, I’m a little confused at your words hurled out at your Easter Service. It appears you invited Christians to the Wh...

Whats Really Going On?

Mr. President,

I’m a little confused at your words hurled out at your Easter Service. It appears you invited Christians to the White House in order to give them an old school whipping. By the way, I’m a nobody; a convicted felon, who has squashed the right to vote, due to my young adulthood choices. You on the other hand; you’re the leader of the “Free World”, with a posse of undisclosed protection, but as you say, “But that is a topic for another day”. My confusion comes when you identify yourself as a Christian but take sideswipes at your fellow brethren. As I quote you, you said, “And I have to say that sometimes when I listen to less than loving expressions by Christians, I get concerned”.  Mr. President, you’re concerned about what? Is it the Christians that are shooting innocent people in the back of their heads, while there’re praying? Is it Christians that are beheading individuals because they don’t believe as the Christians do? It appears that the only person who denies who the responsible party is for these heinous crimes is you Mr. President. Mr. President, with all due respect; your logic seems to be out of tact. It appears that you are well versed in the bible and utilize it when it’s advantageous, but you consistently side with the perpetrators by word and deed. I don’t want to harp on your beliefs, but how about this; Mr. President, if you are concerned about Christians because you hear less than loving expressions; should you be concerned by the actions of Muslims that executed 148, singled out Christians?  But I’m not a politician, so what do I know?

The 411 with Marvin James: Wive's Dont Pull the Plug!

The 411 with Marvin James: Wive's Dont Pull the Plug!: Just read a story about a couple from Georgia that experienced a tragic turn of events. After being married for 7 months, the husband...

Wive's Dont Pull the Plug!

Just read a story about a couple from Georgia that experienced a tragic turn of events. After being married for 7 months, the husband crashed his motorcycle. The doctors told the wife that there was a 90% chance that the husband would die; due to him being on life support for 9 days.  Not only that, but the hospital staff told the wife, “If It was them, they’d pull the plug”. Directly in the face of such opposition, the wife knew the situation was bad, but stated, “I didn’t think it was too big for God”.  Weeks later, while being cared for at home, the husband was able to whisper to his wife, “I’m trying”.

The wife’s name is Danielle and her husband’s name is Matt. If Danielle could stare down the barrel of a 90% educated estimate, that she would lose her husband, and refuse to give up; I wonder if there is a message in that.

SURE IT IS!! If you’re married and it seems that your spouse is non responsive emotionally, physically or financially, you might want to model the defiance of Danielle, to accept defeat; you never know when you might hear, “I’m trying”. Don’t allow other people to tell you when to pull the plug on your spouse. If God allowed you the opportunity to unite; He will supply the strength to endure, so that you may hear, “I’m trying”.

Galatians 6:9   Do not let yourselves get tired of doing good, If we do not give up, we will get what is coming to us at the right time.

The 411 with Marvin James: Running Out of Time

The 411 with Marvin James: Running Out of Time: REAL TALK, If your life was a baseball game, what inning would you be in? Would it be the 3 rd , 5 th , or could it be late in the 8 th ...

Running Out of Time

REAL TALK, If your life was a baseball game, what inning would you be in? Would it be the 3^rd, 5^th, or could it be late in the 8^th inning? One aspect that I believe that we all can agree on is; our Time is running out. As I look into the mirror, I’ve noticed that I have wrinkles where I didn’t have a year ago; signifying that I’m closer to death today than I was yesterday. When I was 20 yrs old, I was young, dumb and full of #@*; I believed that I was invincible, didn’t even have life insurance. But at age 44, I’m strapped with a couple of life insurance policies because I don’t want my wife and kids washing cars or baking pies in order to bury me.

Although I’ve been happily married for 3 years, 4 months and 11 days (Brothers, if you forget anything, don’t forget your marriage date), it’s time for a divorce! As a matter of fact, not only do I want a divorce but I’m calling it quits with all my affairs that I’ve been having. My wife is probably feeling some type of way, but before you kill me baby, let me explain.

Since I’m running out of time, I’m divorcing “If” and I’m calling “Should of” and telling her to kick rocks! After she gets finish with cussing me out, I’m meeting with “Could of” to let her know that I’m sorry for wasting her time, because I was never committed. My last side-chic has been down with me for the longest; when all the rest of them were tripping, she was willing to hold a brother down. But even though I’m going to miss her and probably have times when I reminisce on how good she made me feel when things didn’t go as plan, I gotta cut her. My last chic’s name is “Would of”. 

The 411 with Marvin James: There's Nothing Like A Woman Who Can Use Her Mouth...

The 411 with Marvin James: There's Nothing Like A Woman Who Can Use Her Mouth...: A woman can be a treasured asset or a paralyzing liability for a man. There is something special about a woman that demands a response fr...

There's Nothing Like A Woman Who Can Use Her Mouth!

A woman can be a treasured asset or a paralyzing liability for a man. There is something special about a woman that demands a response from a man. I hear some women speak to their husbands; sounding very similar to the pitch they use when talking to their child. On the other hand, I’ve heard women talk to their men with such respect and finesse, that I want to ask the man, “Where did you get her from?” There is nothing like a woman who knows how to use her mouth because when she chooses her words carefully, she can bring the best out of any man. But when she carelessly speaks out of her pain, she can sink the entire Battleship. A skilled and seasoned woman can speak into the life of an ex-felon, criminal minded, drug addicted, angry man and completely alter his direction in life.

Some women will have a man who handles 8 of 10 responsibilities but instead of applauding the 8, they will focus on the 2 he didn’t handle. It’s a dirty game out there ladies; because you will fixate on the 2 responsibilities your man didn’t do and fall for a man who handles those 2 you have fixated on.  Only problem with this is; your new found man ONLY handles the 2 responsibilities that you’ve fixated on, while neglecting the other 8!  

Try this ladies; the next time your man is getting the groceries out of the car, tell him, “Your arms look like you’ve been working out”, and watch that man try to bring in the entire car.

BOTTOM LINE- You will need to be your man’s best cheerleader instead of his best critic because that job is already taken by him.

The 411 with Marvin James: Al-Shabaab, an "Hell of a Gospel!"

The 411 with Marvin James: Al-Shabaab, an "Hell of a Gospel!": Death, Death and more Death. As we evolve as a people, I have to wonder, what we have evolved into with such heinous acts of murder. Fr...

Al-Shabaab, an "Hell of a Gospel!"

Death, Death and more Death. As we evolve as a people, I have to wonder, what we have evolved into with such heinous acts of murder. From a depressed pilot crashing a plane into the mountains, to masked gunmen executing over 147 humans? My heart goes out to the families of each victim but I have to save some empathy for myself because I could be next, as well as you! What goes through a person’s mind at 7am in the morning, to wake up and start shooting people in the back of their head? What type of religion invokes such bravery of its followers, as to attach a bomb to oneself but cowardly wear a disguise because you don’t want your face shown? Whatever happened to real soldiers like Hitler, who would send the country that he plans to attack, a letter, warning that he was coming? This type of violence makes the violence in Chicago look honorable, because at least there, the victims have an opportunity to bear arms. Al-Shabaab, that was a “Real Gangster” act, shooting people while there praying; what’s next, shooting women while their giving birth? What I find amazing is the fact that your followers have never questioned or wondered why individuals would rather die than convert to Islam. If your religion is the Truth and the Way, why does it need the crutches on AK47 and bombs to support it? Last time I checked, the Truth can hold it’s on. Here’s an idea, instead of killing every non Muslim; you could take over the world by sharing your truth with them instead of bullets. Honestly, what you’re showing the world is that you have little faith in your Gospel but rely heavily on your hate.