When
my 10yr old son Malcolm gave me this birthday card, I must be honest, at first
I told him “Thanks son”. The reasoning behind such as superficial response was
my feelings of inadequacy as a father. You see, I failed him as far as staying
married to his mother. I failed numerously at spending adequate amount of time
with him. I failed at giving him a consistent godly role model. I’ve failed at
times with making sure he has the things on his wish list; as well as, some of
his basic needs. I’ve failed at
attending some of his football and basketball games. I’ve failed at controlling
my anger and watching the language that I used around him. With such an
extensive list, it can be challenging to read a letter from your son, stating
that you have been influential and he appreciates your guidance in his life.
I used
to believe I was a “Good Parent” until I made some critical mistakes. After
making the mistakes, I fell under the impression that I was a “Bad Parent”. I’ve
come to the conclusion that I’m not a “Bad Parent or a Good Parent”, I’m a
Parent. As a parent, I want to encourage you to forgive yourself and keep at
it. Sometimes our kids can learn from our humanity and serve as silent
accountability partners that will teach us a thing or two.
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