"I'm not going to settle down for just Anybody!"

I can remember overhearing two women discussing their standards and prerequisites for a potential husband. I must say that these women were not half stepping. The list went from having good credit, to being good with kids. They were looking for a man with good hair, gorgeous eyes, cute butt, bulging muscles, great employment and a nice ride. The list also included, that the man be sensitive, educated, funny, romantic, polite, discerning, and able to protect from any harm or danger. As if the list wasn’t long enough; one lady said, “He has to be accepted by my mama, liked by my best friend and not be addicted to porn or drugs”. “He definitely has to love the Lord, be faithful, responsible, and patient with my son”.

I agree with the women, regarding admiring a man with all those qualities, but where do you find such a man? Not in a church because those men are boring; not at work because those men are dogs. Not at a bar, those men are predators; not at school because those men don’t have steady employment yet. Not in prison; those men are felons; not at the morgue because those men are dead. Not online because those men lie about who they are; not at a car dealership because those men are not sincere.

Ladies, your search for a man with all those qualities, could be a delusional desire, for a single man to posses every good quality of the past men you have been intimate with. Or could it be that you are expecting to meet a polished, finished product but all you seem to find are “Works in progress?”

I’m not insinuating that women should lower their standards but I am suggesting that you compare yourself to that standard. And if your examination reveals that you are lacking in multiple areas of your standards, it is possible that your potential mate could be also. So your only choices are to roll up your sleeves and be part of the process to build those qualities in your mate or watch life pass you by, while you sit on the bench of life, waiting for your delusional mate, who doesn't and never will exist. REAL TALK