Take One for The Team

One of the hardest challenges there is for a team is to maintain a “Team Perspective. What makes it challenging is when a certain player develops a “Me Perspective” with a team oriented task. The goal of the team becomes secondary to the player with the “Me Perspective” agenda.

Raising a child takes a collective effort, and a team oriented approach. The challenge most face is when the child has to play on the home field (Usually the mother’s home) and on the away field (Usually the father’s home). The team’s goal, which is raising the child or children void of as many emotional and financial limps as possible, get’s lost when the Mother/Father loses the “Team Perspective”. It is a privilege for a father to be able to support his seeds in a monetary way, but that privilege can quickly turn into an oppressive tool, when the mother decides to have a “Me Perspective”, and gets greedy. Not every mother falls into this category, and not every father pays support.

Mothers, there is no benefit for the child with attempting to leave the father financially destitute, because the child could go without while with the father. This would be a good time to exhibit the “Team Perspective”, placing the child’s needs above your vendetta.

Fathers, there is no benefit for the child with assassinating the mother’s character because after all, she is the child’s mother. I asked my son the other day, what he would think if I talked bad about his mother but said I love him. My son replied, “Ugh, I don’t know, I would be confused.” This also, would be a good time to exhibit the “Team Perspective”, once again, placing the child’s needs above your feelings.

To sum it up, parents, we will need to “Bite the Bullet” or “Take one for the team”; use which ever phrase tickles your fancy, but remember ; it’s a  child’s emotional welfare is at stake.