Whoever made the saying, “Men don’t cry”, were
exactly right; Real men WEEP! The artist Lyfe Jennings said, “Crying is like
taking your soul to the laundry mat”. When a man doesn’t allow himself the
freedom to express the pain, guilt, hurt, failures and fears in the form of
crying; he becomes a very dangerous man. Crying isn’t a display of weakness but
the physical proof that a man is in tune with the emotional trauma that brews
within him. The reason you don’t see
some men cry is that they have taken some form of anesthesia to numb any
feeling that will conflict with the ego. The form of anesthesia varies upon the
man. Some men use sex, others use alcohol or drugs; while others still prefer
the old form of anesthesia, which is violence. If a man cannot emotionally
express himself, does that mean he doesn’t have such emotions? Absolutely not;
he’s just been conditioned to act a little inhumane. The same emotions that a
man is expected to identify and respond to with his woman, are the same emotions
that the man runs from in his own soul. My question is, “How does that work?”
Sisters, if your man seems to be void of any
emotions, unable to emotionally breakdown; wrap your arms gently around his
shoulders and just hold him. Confirm to him with a soft voice that he is
needed, valued and appreciated. Most of all, acknowledge the fact that he
continues to fight in the war of masculinity; in spite of the wounds that
injured and scarred him emotionally and mentally.
Bottom Line Ladies: If Men don’t cry, men need to learn
how to, and you will need to teach us.
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